How to make your Goals stick?

When I first started making goals I just came up with things that I wanted to happen without another thought about them and it was not a surprise that they did not happen. It wasn’t until I really really wanted something that I made it into a goal (without realising) and started working hard towards it. Now 6 years later most of my goals I have actually achieved. How I did it? With these simple steps.

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Think what you want from life.

I call these the ultimate goals or life goals. Is it travelling, owning your own house, a person who loves you, getting high grades? Write them down. They might seem impossible now, but writing them down is the first step towards making it happen.

What you would need to do to make that happen.

Do you need to earn money? Do you need to educate yourself in some way or maybe become more social? Write these down under your life goals. There can be more than one step to each life goal, actually, there can be many steps. Don’t let this frighten you or depress you.

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How long?

Now with each of these steps decide how long will it take you to achieve that or how long you will give yourself time to achieve it. Are there more steps within these steps that you need to take to achieve them? Write them down.

That is how you make goals. You make something that seems so far out of reach reachable by making small steps to attain them. Each step you can make into a goal. However, for the goal to stick you need to have a time period in which you want to achieve it and write it down specifically.  If your goal is ‘read more books’ it doesn’t really determine how many books you want to read and it will not make you push towards that goal. Instead ‘read 15 books in the year 2017’ will actually make you push towards that goal.

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Rewards

Although, I think reaching a goal feels rewarding in itself I do sometimes set a reward to reach a certain goal. Such as ‘I can order 3 more books ones I’ve read the 25 books’. It helps you push towards that goal when you really don’t feel like it.

When you break your life goals into steps it makes it much more achievable and more in your control. It also helps you to track how far away from your goals you are. Goals help you feel the sense of achievement and I find they help me feel satisfied with my life and a sense of purpose.

 

Happy Goal making! Do you have any additional suggestions on how to make goals?

With love,

Lii

How to get over the ‘lost’ feeling

You know the lost feeling after a big project? When you don’t know what to do or where to continue. It can distract your sleep, your mood, and your appetite.Similar to that after finishing a really good book or a tv show. One good example, which I have experienced, is finishing University. Feeling lost, sad and even anxious is never nice, but is part of the process before going toward your next big thing. For some people, this feeling can last for longer whereas others bump over it in no time at all.

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After I finished University it took me a long time to get over this feeling. I seemed to think that I should be able to do something wonderful if I finished University, but I couldn’t decide where to start with. These are some of the things I found that really helped to get over the feeling.

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  1.  Take a little downtime. Give yourself some time to reflect, relax and get the project out of your system. I love using essential oils to make me relax. At the moment, I burn them with a candle (you can see above my super adorable owl) during the evening. My favourite scents at the moment are lavender and white camphor.
  2. Stay away from people who might make you anxious. (I had so many people asking what am I doing now or in the future or what my plans are, when I wasn’t ready to answer.)
  3. Write. It can be a blog or your own secret notebook, but writing is a good therapy and helps you to clear your head.
  4. Meditation. I know this can be difficult to some people, especially for me. But I found yoga, jogging and going for a walk to help. During these activities I cannot concentrate on my thoughts, but rather let my them flow by, which is exactly the point. And it is wonderful how refreshed your mind can feel after that!
  5. And then, ones you are ready or if you are too anxious and lost, make new goals. It helps to reflect on what is important to you or to know what needs to be done (depending on how much time you have). I like to make goals about my professional life and self-development. This way even I have excitement and motivation even if something fails.

 

How do you get over the feeling of being lost?

With love,

Lii