5 articles for Self-Development

I Have 15 Ideas To Change Your Life – Very motivational and to the point. You will want to start instantly!

How To Understand Fake News and Media Bias – Great explanation of what the media can be like and tips to pick the news that you can trust.

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This Technique Can Help You Remember Anything – … and fight depression. Supported by research this technique sounds so helpful!

Why Learning Is a New Procrastination – This article hits the spot and provides you with motivation and drive to go and do what you are dreaming of doing. Definitely opened my eyes!

Forget About Setting Goals. Focus On This Instead. – Although, I do not agree with everything said in this article e.g. I think setting goals is helpful, partly to understand what you are striving for and focuses you on what you are working towards. However, this still had good points and something that I think will support your goals.

 

And additionally here is a Ted Talk – Inside the mind of a Master Procrastinator, which made me laugh and also a bit scared of my procrastinating abilities..

 

Have you read recently any interesting articles on self-improvement that you would like to share with me and other readers?

With love,

Lii

What was I up to in January

Unlike the usual belief of January being gloomy and depressing mine has been anything but. January, for me, has been busy with planning the year ahead, reflecting on the previous year and sobering from the holiday festivities. I wrote several posts about my goals, how to make goals that stick and how to make your own diary for the year 2017. Following my own tips, I have created a several step plan for this year how to achieve my goals. Starting with getting a membership card to a yoga studio, which I have been loving!

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Although full of work and thinking, I have not been as busy as in December so I’ve had the time to enjoy my Christmas presents, some culture this month and reflect on my favourite books from 2016 while planning on my extensive book list for this year.

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Sustainability has been firmly on my mind and I have shared with you the Bee’s Wrap sheets as well as the sustainable form of vegetable marking. Now I am off to research more sustainable topics and plan new content for the blog. It will be exciting!!

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How was you January?

With love,

Lii

2016 Favourite Books

As I mentioned in my goals post I managed to finish 21 books in the year 2016. Although, there were a couple which I found a drag to read in general the books were interesting and they brought enjoyment into my daily life. I thought, I should mention my favourite ones to you if any of them would inspire you to read as well.

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I know Why The Caged Birds Fly – Maya Angelou

The first autobiography by Maya Angelou, where she tells the story of her childhood from a southern American state. How she was raised by her grandmother, how she missed and adored her mother, her relationship with her brother and how she found the world around her. Although, depressing at times, mostly I found the book intriguing and easy to read. It definitely made me want to read more of her books.

#Girlboss – Sophia Amoruso

I am sure everybody knows what this book is about. Half-motivation half autobiography I loved reading about Sophia’s life and how she came about creating such a successful fashion company. I was so motivated to do and work for my goals that I had problems sleeping. I am sure this won’t happen to many people, so those of you who are looking to be inspired with their goals I recommend this book.

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Silkworm – Robert Galbraith

Is the second book in the Cormoran Strike crime novels by J.K. Rowling pseudonym Robert Galbraith. I loved the first book, mainly because I love a good crime novel and because I love the way J.K. Rowling writes. She can really hold the reader in suspense and make a great twist in the end. Cormoran Strike novels are long, but they don’t feel that way. I read it in just a couple of days. Gruesome murder and a mystery to solve. So if you like J.K. Rowlings writing and crime novels I definitely recommend this one!

How To Make Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie

This book was recommended by one of my favourite bloggers so I decided to try it out. It is a self-help book, but the reason I liked it was the stories behind every ‘lesson’. Where Dale writes about what rules you should follow when conducting yourself with new people who you would like to make a good impression on, he writes with examples set by real people, mostly great previous leaders. While reading you think how each rule is kind of obvious, but it is he examples and the stories that really make you remember how you should conduct yourself in public. Definitely a good read!  I think this book would be of assistance to everybody. It is not a book about making close friendships, but really about how you should be thinking when communicating with other people so that they will want to hear more from you.

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Overdressed – Elizabeth L. Cline

I’ve told you about this book. It tells about the problems of fast-fashion to this world and especially to the people. If you want to read more of my thoughts on it, check out this post. Again, I think everybody should read this book. Not, because it is enjoyable, I mean it really is not, but because you will understand more about what you are buying.

Schoking Life Of Elsa Schiaparelli

This I have told you about as well. The autobiography of Elsa Schiaparelli is not for fashion lovers only, but for those who want to read about a strong woman, who made a business success, who lived through the war and who seems to be in her own world. She has a unique view on how to do business and really, she is quite an inspiration to read as well!

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The Handmaid’s Tale – Margaret Atwood

I do not understand how it took me such a long time to read this book. It could be that I wouldn’t have understood the message before, or maybe it would have opened my eyes much earlier. I don’t know. However, I think this was my favourite book of the year. It seemed absolutely surreal, it kept me guessing and wanting to read more and in the end, I was completely surprised. If I only remember one book from the year 2016, it is this. And it has inspired me to read more of Atwood’s books! Now I can’t wait until the tv-show will come out!

 

What books where your favourite last year?

With love,

Lii

How to make your Goals stick?

When I first started making goals I just came up with things that I wanted to happen without another thought about them and it was not a surprise that they did not happen. It wasn’t until I really really wanted something that I made it into a goal (without realising) and started working hard towards it. Now 6 years later most of my goals I have actually achieved. How I did it? With these simple steps.

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Think what you want from life.

I call these the ultimate goals or life goals. Is it travelling, owning your own house, a person who loves you, getting high grades? Write them down. They might seem impossible now, but writing them down is the first step towards making it happen.

What you would need to do to make that happen.

Do you need to earn money? Do you need to educate yourself in some way or maybe become more social? Write these down under your life goals. There can be more than one step to each life goal, actually, there can be many steps. Don’t let this frighten you or depress you.

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How long?

Now with each of these steps decide how long will it take you to achieve that or how long you will give yourself time to achieve it. Are there more steps within these steps that you need to take to achieve them? Write them down.

That is how you make goals. You make something that seems so far out of reach reachable by making small steps to attain them. Each step you can make into a goal. However, for the goal to stick you need to have a time period in which you want to achieve it and write it down specifically.  If your goal is ‘read more books’ it doesn’t really determine how many books you want to read and it will not make you push towards that goal. Instead ‘read 15 books in the year 2017’ will actually make you push towards that goal.

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Rewards

Although, I think reaching a goal feels rewarding in itself I do sometimes set a reward to reach a certain goal. Such as ‘I can order 3 more books ones I’ve read the 25 books’. It helps you push towards that goal when you really don’t feel like it.

When you break your life goals into steps it makes it much more achievable and more in your control. It also helps you to track how far away from your goals you are. Goals help you feel the sense of achievement and I find they help me feel satisfied with my life and a sense of purpose.

 

Happy Goal making! Do you have any additional suggestions on how to make goals?

With love,

Lii

Happy 2017 Goals

Happy New Year! I know I am a bit late, but this being the first post in this year I just had to celebrate it! As I was working very hard just before the holidays, I spend my free time literally just resting, relaxing and eating. I had planned to make goals for the following year and lot’s of other things that I don’t usually have time for, but hey ho, the relaxing really rejuvenated me and now I am ready for this year. Last year was the first when I really made goals. I was not happy with my life at that point, mainly because it had no direction and once I had thought about where I want to get I started making goals to keep me in focus. Turns out last year, although many would say was hard and unfortunate, was for me personally enjoyable and successful. I am pretty sure this is due to making goals and not using time on something I don’t see has any place in my life. So naturally I made goals for this year as well and will share few of them with you.

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Self-Development

If you have been reading my blog, you might have noticed that I like to develop myself, my skills and learn new things. So most of my goals are in some ways to do with self-development.

  • Learn German – I have been studying german on Duolingo for ages, but I always seem to forget to do it and fall back. Now I am planning to really stick with it raise my fluency score.
  • Read 24 books – This was my goal last year, but I felt short of it by 3 books. I got stuck on a book, which wasn’t bad it just wasn’t moving forward. This year I will beat this goal!
  • Do yoga consistently on a weekly basis – I love doing yoga, but when I get busy and tired I talk myself out of it. I know how good yoga is for me, so I need to be stronger than that and get a grip. 3 times of yoga a week and I am sure I will feel better!
  • Develop my photography skills – I’ve had some lovely comments here on my photography, which I absolutely love to read. I like taking photographs and I want to improve in it. Mostly I want to improve the style of my photography and train my eye to take good photos.
  • Learn more about sustainability, especially withing textiles – I need to read more blog posts, articles, books and watch documentaries on this. Although, I think often that I know a lot I know I have only scratched the top of the issue.
  • Learn to keep plants alive and thriving – I love plants and flowers, but do not seem to be able to keep most of them alive. I seem to be over watering everything except for my succulents which I leave week after week unwatered and they are thriving. I will get a book on how to care for my plants and will do my best at keeping them alive. If there is anybody who would like to help me with this I would love some advice!

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What are your goals this year?

 

With love,

Lii

Thoughts of an introvert – Socially awkward complimenting

Complimenting other people on their appearance, success or any other aspect is part of people’s daily life. Well, it should be. It makes the receiver of the compliment feel special and appreciated (in most cases). I see people who compliment all the time and about the smallest of things from nice trousers and beautiful haircut to a great strength. Most often the compliments bring joy, however, sadly there are occasions when they are placed to butter somebody up or in a sarcastic tone. Then there are those people who never really say any true compliments, other than the agreement with others “yes, it really is beautiful”. The reserved type who almost seem rude.

Let’s think about it like this. What goes in their head? It could be something like this:

Oh wow, I really like her top. I should probably say it, but not now, now is not the right time. When could be a good time? Well, she is speaking to somebody else just now. She probably isn’t even interested in my opinion, why would I bother her with it, no point in saying it out loud. But then, it could also make her feel great or make her day… or she will think I am saying it sarcastically and laughing at her. If I do it genuinely she shouldn’t feel like that, though. But whenever I open my mouth I sound strange and awkward. Oh, but now it’s been too long and it would be out of context if I’d compliment her now, I do not want to seem stupid and awkward.

All of this might be going in somebody’s head while others see a girl standing there staring at the top with a strange expression and wonder whether there is something wrong with it.

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Well, this is me. Being an introvert socialising with people feels very awkward and most of the time I end up analysing situations and my behaviour rather than actually socialising, especially if it is with strangers or less familiar people. In addition, after I have opened my mouth and said something I end up analysing it afterwards and scrutinising myself over how awkward I sounded. This year I finally made a goal to get better at socialising with people (yes, that does sound cringe even to me). I decided to start complimenting people. It shouldn’t be such a complex task and it something positive. It is now August and we are nearing the last 4 months of this year. What is my progress in this task I set out for myself?

As always I do try to smile to most people I meet. Whether it is the bus driver, the cashier or somebody at work, to most of them, I also say hi. This has backfired a little, though. On my way home or away from there I usually walk this one busy street where this younger man was nice enough to say hi to me once or twice. He is a complete stranger and I thought I was getting better at this. Until I realised that he was standing at different points of the street almost every single time I walked there and only said ‘hi’ to me. I felt a bit creeped out and have been keeping an eye that he is not following me home. Maybe, I shouldn’t be saying ‘hi’ to every single person.

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What comes to complimenting, on the other hand, I found it to be more difficult than I thought. I’ve made one compliment to a stranger in the whole 8 months. Even then I was cringing and pondering on it for a while whether I should say it. At a coffee stand, I ordered coffee from this girl with bold and colourful nails. She worked there alone and people passing by were always very busy. I complimented her on the nails on the very last second before I left the stand and after I thanked her for my coffee and she did smile. I don’t know if I made her day just that bit better or not, but I like to think that I did. I was genuine in my compliment. I did analyse the situation for a while afterwards, but it didn’t make me feel any worse and it certainly didn’t make my day any worse. I should definitely work on complimenting more!

The point of this is, I guess, that those of you who feel awkward talking out loud, you are not alone. There are many others who do as well. Who over analyse situations and feel awkward next to their bubbly amazing friends. But then, I do look behind those other people too who might not say so much and I understand them. I do not compliment often, even my friends and family, but when I do, I really really mean it and it makes it more special those times. And to those who think quiet people are rude, they might not be. It could be just that they are over analysing things in their head. I would still take a genuine compliment from a person rarely than feel that it is ingenuine and mocking.

 

How do you feel about complimenting people?

With love,

Lii