What Was I Up To In October

October has been so busy I’ve barely had the time to read about anything relating to sustainability, but I catch-up with it as often as I can. Instead, last month I have been working with several different clients, which has been at the same time exciting and tiring. Running from one place to the next and not having a routine can be challenging and it’s taken a toll on my brain, but I am getting used to it and being able to focus on other stuff now as well!

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I didn’t write much on the blog last month, but I did manage to cover few sustainability topics. I discussed how we can support sustainability and what its causes can be, as well as introduced the Cradle to Cradle design philosophy book which I enjoyed immensely. In addition, I shared at the beginning of the month some sustainable news that I found interesting.

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I shared with you how I got more confident with my work, which I still feel and will probably want to talk about it more in the future as well! I’ve been finally getting used to autumn and actually enjoying it. Surprisingly my autumn slump was much shorter this year than last and I see every day something that I enjoy about autumn. I’ve enjoyed some delicious meals from Pumpkin and I told you about my trip to Berlin, which I loved!

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How was your October? I would love to hear, share in the comment box below!

With love,

Lii

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Happy Favourites of the Week – Confidence

Networking Night – Networking, it’s the dirty word in the career life and the thing we should all be doing to get ahead. It is also what I have been afraid of so far! I am not big on socialising in big groups of people, where most are strangers who I don’t know. I am not big on putting myself into other people’s conversations and I feel pushy if I ask people about theirs (although apparently, I shouldn’t feel that way, people like it!). This year I finally realised that if I want to get ahead in as a freelancer I need to work to get to know people and get my name out there. So when the first opportunity that I could really take, presented itself I pushed myself, even in the exhausted state that I was on the day, to go to this event. I knew few people in there so it didn’t feel quite as scary. The night was a success. I got few new enquiries into my freelance work, potential clients, and I got introduced to many people who had apparently already heard of me and my work. Maybe I should be going to more of these nights?

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Confidence – It is a big confidence boost when other people notice that you are good at something, but it is even a bigger confidence boost when you realise it yourself and believe in it! It can often be difficult to admit to oneself that they are good at something, it can feel like bragging. But I think we should definitely be able to recognise, at least to ourselves, that we are improving in whatever that we do.

This post about Healthy Laundry – Ecocult wrote a great article about how to do your laundry in a healthy way and I am loving it!!

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I got my ring back – Last Happy Favourites of the week I told that I got engaged, well since then my ring has been resized, which wasn’t done properly and the stone fell out. Thankfully I found it so we took it to the jewellers to get it fixed. It took over a week, but now I finally got it back! Funny how such a thing can feel so much a part of me after such a short time. Every day I felt like something was missing from my finger. I guess it really belongs there!

Lovely new dark chocolate – Green & Black’s Velvet edition dark chocolate with salted caramel is to die for! The salted caramel is not too sweet or too salty and it compliments the dark chocolate excellently. It just melts in your mouth. Loving it!!

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Flowers from friends – The past couple of weeks people have been sending us congratulation cards and wishes, but one of my good friends brought in this beautiful bouquet, which made me smile every time I saw it. It is a great lift up within a busy hectic week!

Power – The book was very interesting and had a fascinating premise! I enjoyed reading it, even if it wasn’t my all-time favourite book. It raised good questions and a different way to look at feminism and equality. An excellent read that I do recommend to everybody!

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How was your week?

With love,

Lii

Can You Fake Body Confidence?

One of the things that I want to write in this blog about is body confidence and empowering women. I find joy in being able to help people to achieve their best, to feel better and really take charge of their life. I study the subject and I converse it with others, but then I feel a pinch of guilt. Can I really be talking and promoting body positivity and self-empowerment if I don’t feel like it myself? Is it lying if I don’t feel confident myself? Is it misrepresenting the message that I am trying to present? Is it being an imposter?

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Throughout my childhood, I was doing a lot of sports. All of my evenings were filled with some sports or musical hobbies and you can imagine that I was skinny. This image of myself got so ingrained in my self-image, that when I stopped the competitive sports and exercising every single day and my body started to change I got very self-conscious. I had always been known as the skinny girl and now suddenly I had curves and I had gained weight. Not only did I not feel like myself, but I didn’t want anybody to see me because it was like failing their image of me. I am lucky to have friends who don’t care what I look like and a boyfriend who adores me, it helps a lot with the body image that I have of myself. However, I still can’t help looking into the mirror occasionally and not seeing what I feel like.

The one thing that I have noticed has a big influence on why the change in body image is so slow is the lack of examples out there. I used to love browsing through fashion magazines and watching 90s and early 00s tv shows, which are filled with super skinny models and actresses and that is the body type that we think as “normal”. I didn’t see a person who had been skinny and then gained weight, without the following judging comment of how that person had gained weight. It is seen as a failure to be a woman in the society.

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I know today there are a lot more positive body image examples and I am trying to focus on them. Partly the reason why I want to write about it is to help myself as well. I find it so inspiring to see women of all sizes and different histories who are making something out of themselves, who are being brave, who are being gracious and who are confident! Why wouldn’t I share that with others? I know what the staples for a positive body-image are. My mother used to make me go in front of a mirror and tell the mirror how beautiful I was, that helped the teenager who apparently had some problem with the body image when her body was changing. I still talk to myself in front of the mirror, but I do cringe. I try to tell myself what I find beautiful about myself and I still cringe. At yoga when we are told that we should cherish our beautiful bodies, I have to force myself to think of all the things my body does. And you know, it really does. I can tell with confidence that I love my body, but still I find it stopping me from so many things, such as wanting to buy clothes or even trying on clothes, going to public spaces to do any kind of sports, I try to hide when I am at a public gathering and make myself as small as I can. And I know I shouldn’t do any of it. It is like my body-image has affected my self-image and it is hard to build back, but I am doing it, although most days it feels like I am faking it till I make it.

I am no longer trying to get back to my teenage weight and body style, there is no point it that, I am a woman now and I want to look like a woman. Now I just want to keep myself healthy and feel good in my body. Most days I do!

 

Do you feel body confident?

With love,

Lii

5 Articles for Sustainability, Charity and Body Confidence

The Trouble With Charity – This post pointing out the trouble with companies using charity as a bandage on all the problems they are causing in a world is on point and a very interesting and intelligent read which will provide you with a new viewpoint.

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How To Have The Confidence To Wear Whatever You Flipping Want – Cynical Duchess writes about her experience of body positivity, self-confidence and how to feel better about yourself in a beauty controlling society.

How To Overcome Your Fear Of Sharing Your Blog With Friends And Family – A post that not only provides you with tips for telling about your blog to friends and family but empowers you to speak and be proud of what you want and like.

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The Myth of Size Small – An article empowering women to think outside the size box and rather dress to look great, whilst explaining one theory why women want to dress in a size small.

Is Ethical Fashion Elitist – Questioning whether it is fair to expect everybody to afford ethical fashion.

 

Do you have any articles to share write them in the comment box below?

With love,

Lii